What if my partner doesn't want to come?
Ask them if they will come anyways. If not, I can work with you one-on-one to help improve your relationship.
Can you tell us if we should get divorced or not?
No, this is unethical. Also, it's a very personal decision. I help people examine, evaluate and live according to their values. If you want help keeping your marriage together, I will work hard to help you do that. If you're not sure if you want to, I can help you through a decision-making process about that.
How long will it take for things to get better?
This depends in part on the nature of the problem, how each person sees the problem, how actively you want to work on the problem, and your goals. For instance, there's more movement forward when people work on their issues outside of the therapy hour as well. Most people feel better after the first session because they have broadened their base of support by asking for a therapist's help. They are giving their time and energy to making a positive difference. It's similar to when you start working out to get healthy. The first day you feel a little better and proud of yourself for getting started. You might feel hopeful. But to get to your goal, you have to stick with it and put in the time and energy. Some days you'll feel tired and sore and then when you notice a difference because of your hard work you'll feel elated.
Ask them if they will come anyways. If not, I can work with you one-on-one to help improve your relationship.
Can you tell us if we should get divorced or not?
No, this is unethical. Also, it's a very personal decision. I help people examine, evaluate and live according to their values. If you want help keeping your marriage together, I will work hard to help you do that. If you're not sure if you want to, I can help you through a decision-making process about that.
How long will it take for things to get better?
This depends in part on the nature of the problem, how each person sees the problem, how actively you want to work on the problem, and your goals. For instance, there's more movement forward when people work on their issues outside of the therapy hour as well. Most people feel better after the first session because they have broadened their base of support by asking for a therapist's help. They are giving their time and energy to making a positive difference. It's similar to when you start working out to get healthy. The first day you feel a little better and proud of yourself for getting started. You might feel hopeful. But to get to your goal, you have to stick with it and put in the time and energy. Some days you'll feel tired and sore and then when you notice a difference because of your hard work you'll feel elated.